Your 50 Favorite Proverbs: #3 Beware of Princess Charming

December 2014 Your 50 Favorite Proverbs | Liz Curtis Higgs

Back in the day, young women went to charm school to learn all the social graces—how to sit, stand, and walk properly, how to dine in a formal setting, how to address people in every situation.

One skill that wasn’t taught was deception. Sadly, we learned how to do that all by ourselves, with a little help from the father of lies.

But our story isn’t finished. While we’re living and breathing, there’s still time for the Father of Truth to change us into His kind of honest-speaking, holy-living woman. Watch.

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
   but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30 

"Charm is deceptive,..." Proverbs 31:30

Charm is deceptive,… Proverbs 31:30

Charm sounds like a good thing. The Hebrew word chanan means “favor, grace, elegance.” But when charm is used for the wrong reasons, those “pleasing ways lie” (NLV).

That old saying, “Flattery will get you everywhere”? That’s the charm we’re talking about, the kind used to “fool” (EXB) people, for our own benefit.

A telemarketer called our home, selling a long-distance service. She pressed on with a cheery, sing-song rendition of the obvious script before her, until Bill finally said, “Ma’am, I’m afraid I don’t have time for this conversation.”

Her charming tone turned to steel. “We are not having a conversation, Mr. Higgs. I am telling you about my product.”

Okay, then. Let’s not go there.

"...and beauty is fleeting;..." Proverbs 31:30

…and beauty is fleeting;… Proverbs 31:30

Faith Baldwin said, “Time is a dressmaker specializing in alterations.” Oh baby. We know that’s right.

Beauty as the world defines it doesn’t hang around very long. The firm muscle tone and wrinkle-free skin of youth “fades away” (CEV) with each passing year, until it finally “disappears” (GNT), despite all the age-defying (or is it age-denying?) products on the market.

In Hebrew, hebel shows us why beauty “evaporates” (GW). The word literally means “vapor, breath.” Poof. Gone. In the end, attractiveness “comes to nothing” (NLV) and will “vanish” (CJB) without a trace.

Am I saying an older woman isn’t beautiful? Absolutely not! That silvery hair, those permanent smile lines, the glow of wisdom in her eyes? All stunning.

But the media would have us believe otherwise. Their message is, “Looking good means looking young.” When an older woman is trotted out? She’s inevitably described as “youthful, for her age.” Sigh.

That’s why the Proverbs 31 woman looks in a different direction.

"...but a woman who fears the Lord..." Proverbs 31:30

…but a woman who fears the Lord… Proverbs 31:30

When Dianne chose this verse as her favorite, she said, “In our society, we are always pushed to focus on our appearance. I want to be a woman who fears the Lord!”

We do too, sister. We want to be the kind of woman who lives “reverently and worshipfully” (AMP), who “honors the Lord” (CEV), and shows Him the deepest “respect” (NIRV).

Fear is the right word for it, considering His limitless power.
Fear God, and there’s no need to fear anyone or anything else.

Taricia believes, “Knowing God is a woman’s true beauty.” We’ve seen how gorgeous God’s woman can be. Her eyes shine with His love, her mouth smiles with His joy, her hands move at His bidding, her feet follow where He leads. She exudes His peace, she offers His hope, she knows His Word, she speaks His truth, she embraces His people, she glorifies His Name.

She’s the woman we all want to be when we grow up.

God alone makes that possible. It isn’t a matter of trying harder or doing more. It’s putting God at the very center of our lives and placing each minute in His more-than-able hands.

" to be praised." Proverbs 31:30

…is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30

Hmm. Praised by people? I wouldn’t count on it. People withhold praise for lots of reasons—jealousy and envy among them. Paul reminds us, “ If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ” (Galatians 1:10).

Yet, this verse assures us a godly woman “deserves to be praised” (CEV) and, in fact, “will be greatly praised” (NLT). By whom? Maybe hubby and the kids, if she has them: “Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her” (Proverbs 31:28).

So, how’s this going at your house? Right. Mine too.

How about at work? Among friends? The truth is, trying to please people—even people we love—might never earn us applause. That’s okay. They are not our Audience.

Annie Chapman wisely says, “The balanced woman is not out to please some of the people all of the time, or all of the people some of the time. Her strategy for living is to be simply, purely, passionately devoted to the Lord.”

There’s our answer: God is the One who will praise us.

The Hebrew word for praise here is halal, which means “shine.” So beautiful. God turns the warmth of His light on us, He shines His attention on us, He bathes us in the glow of His approval—not because we’re good, but because we belong to Him and He is good.

Job remembered “the days when God watched over me, when his lamp shone on my head” (Job 29:2-3). Those days returned for Job, and they can become a reality for us. Not by polishing our personalities or buffing up our appearance, but by loving, serving, honoring, and worshiping the One who is worthy of our praise.

Heavenly Father, I’ve spent too many years trying to be charming, so others would like me. Too much effort trying to be pretty, so others would look at me. Help me turn to You with holy fear and humble trust. If applause comes my way, let it be from You. If You shine Your favor on me, let it be for Your glory alone.

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Your grateful sister, Liz
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109 Responses to Your 50 Favorite Proverbs: #3 Beware of Princess Charming

  1. Vicki December 19, 2014 at 2:04 pm #

    To live out this Proverb: Seek the Lord everyday and listen for His guidance. Seek His approval, not man’s. He alone is worthy to be praised. Amen.

  2. diane Stiles December 19, 2014 at 2:13 pm #

    Such good reminders again! Just knowing where to gaze (and at my navel isn’t the answer!) is a big help. Straight on God!

  3. Marie December 19, 2014 at 2:20 pm #

    Liz, this one especially hit me. As a grandma and a working women, I find myself “comparing” my eye lines, my mouth lines, my hair, my larger than before belly. I enjoyed this, because I know HE loves me for how HE made me. It’s always good to look in the mirror and try to see how God sees you. Faults and all, God still loves me because I’m His. God bless.

  4. Jaime December 19, 2014 at 2:37 pm #

    I’ve gained a few(does 70+ count as a few?) pounds since I got married and my hair is more grey than dark. I’m 37 with, God willing, more years to go. My husband tells me every day how beautiful I am and how much he loves me. With earthly, imperfect love that wonderful, how much more does the Lord love me in His perfect way! I constantly remind myself of that and keep my focus on God.

  5. Evelyn Rogers December 19, 2014 at 2:42 pm #

    Thanks so much for this I really needed it.Your teachings have always been such a blessing to me.My favorite proverb is 16:3 commit tho the Lord whatever you do and your plans will succeed.

  6. Susan December 19, 2014 at 2:52 pm #

    What a perfect post of encouragement, Liz!

  7. Cyndi December 19, 2014 at 2:56 pm #

    Interestingly enough, sinful people are impossible to please, but our sinless Savior extends His favor to us so willingly!

  8. Martha T. December 19, 2014 at 3:03 pm #

    Another great verse from Proverbs!
    I want to be like her when I grow up too !

  9. Linda H December 19, 2014 at 3:06 pm #

    Each time I look in the mirror and want to be negative, I will give Praise to the One who made me. I truly want to start seeing myself through His loving eyes. When I reflect what He sees, others will see His amazing love shining out!!

  10. Bess McCall December 19, 2014 at 3:07 pm #

    Thank you for reminding me of what is most important. I seem to need that reminder often!
    I love your teaching!
    Merry Christmas!

  11. Fran Gumprecht December 19, 2014 at 3:09 pm #

    Thank you so much! I really needed this! Practice, practice, practice!

  12. Pam Erselius December 19, 2014 at 3:15 pm #

    To trust Him, the God Almighty and Sovereign, with my life’s difficulties, knowing I can safely put them in His hands. To memorize John 6:37- …the one who comes to Me I will by no means cast out.

  13. Mary Antzak December 19, 2014 at 3:18 pm #

    I plan on clothing myself with this verse even more as recently illnesses have come to the forefront that have prevented me from going to church for a time (until surgery). So by living out Fearing the Lord and not man, I’ll be better prepared for wolves in sheeps’ clothing and not be fooled. By the leading of the Holy Spirit, I will not be so gullible to believe the lies of others as they mean harm not just to me to especially to others. I will continually pray for discernment and the leading of the Lord.

  14. Robin December 19, 2014 at 3:20 pm #

    What a timely reminder! I’ve been somewhat obsessed today about conversation with coworkers & how I may be perceived (as well as what my true intentions may have been). May I instead have spiritual blinders on so that I keep my eyes & focus on Him and what He would have me say.

  15. Annette Hoogendoorn December 19, 2014 at 4:03 pm #

    I work in the sound booth at our church and so see the congregation form the back and four feet higher. Looking out one day I realized there were very few “crowns of gray” especially women (men were bald :-)). It saddens me to see so many Christian woman who are ashamed of their gray crown of age. I feel that the gray haired should have earned respect, but then I am coming into mine slowly at 50 meaning my parents taught me to respect my elders. Now I cannot tell if they are my elders although it is a goal to respect all people of all ages. I still like au natural :-).

    • CarolAnne December 19, 2014 at 5:59 pm #

      Hi, Annette, I am one of “those” women who color her hair! Believe me, if you could see my ‘salt & pepper’ hair, you would understand why I have gone back to my childhood blonde color. If it ever comes in like Liz’s , I won’t color it anymore. Promise 🙂

    • LouAnn December 20, 2014 at 11:48 pm #

      I too color my hair, but not to cover the grey … I really only have a few along the temple and the ‘color’ added doesn’t cover it anyway. I choose to color my hair because its drab and flat. It helps to boost the ‘fullness’ and allows me to style it, I am 59-1/2.

      If I notice my hair come through as silver/grey I might let it grow out that way…al natural.

      In the meantime I am enjoying a new hair color choice of ‘auburn’.

    • Sherri A December 21, 2014 at 8:06 am #

      I, at 51, have let my hair go gray for the last few years as well. It is amazing how few of my friends (actually, no one that I can think of) have made the same choice. Not that they need to, of course, but it does engender many conversations about why we are making these choices and it has caused sales clerks to offer me the seniors’ discount while others older than me breeze through the line-up. Admittedly, I am not ready for that and, some days, it is hard to let go of those little incidents. This is a great lesson that I should probably review weekly, if not daily.

  16. Martha Warner December 19, 2014 at 4:14 pm #

    Knowing God is a womans
    true beauty. I certainly know women like that, and they are always dear to me. Her eyes shine, her smile is warmth, her hands do His work. May that be said of all of us . That
    is my prayer. And what a beautiful world it will be.

  17. Retha Coleman December 19, 2014 at 4:20 pm #

    All I can say is God’s timing is perfect – as always. Sometimes Liz I honestly think you can read my mind and my heart ~ but in a good way, A God Way. Merry Christmas Liz!

  18. Renee Schultz December 19, 2014 at 4:22 pm #

    This is a work in progress always. Looking at myself and looking at others I want to see the inner beauty and “glow” that comes from the peace and love of Jesus. It is not easy, and one can get caught up very easy in the world’s opinions (and our own). But, I want to do better! Thanks Liz for the reminder.

  19. Deb Volkman December 19, 2014 at 4:27 pm #

    This is a great message for every woman. As a woman of God I need to put my trust in Him. One way to do that is to read my Bible everyday and pray and thank God for all he has given me.

  20. Deborah December 19, 2014 at 4:45 pm #

    Amen again and again to this!!!! Thank you!

  21. Blanche Hake December 19, 2014 at 5:43 pm #

    Oh, what a wise Proverb! I was in a team building workshop today where we were to write only validations for our co-workers. We had a sign on our backs which were to be signed, saying something positive about us. It felt good to know that I am valued. I teach GED students, and my hardest job is to instill confidence in them. Just like children, they think they can’t do it, but I insist that they can and most do. I’ve reached an age where what I wear, say, or do is me with no hidden agendas. This is so good for this blessed Christmas season, and bless you.

  22. Debbie Gilpin December 19, 2014 at 5:46 pm #

    No matter what my heart desires there is only one thing needful…to keep my eyes on Him. I know He alone can and will live through me making me genuine and a woman to be praised.
    Thank you Liz for the wonderful reminder of this truth.

  23. Nicki P. December 19, 2014 at 5:51 pm #

    Such beautiful and inspiring words! Thank you for your inspiration.

  24. Bonnie Martinell December 19, 2014 at 6:01 pm #

    We strive to see others as God’s Children, created by His Own Hand. How hard do we try to see ourselves as His precious daughter…?

  25. CarolAnne December 19, 2014 at 6:06 pm #

    I love this series, and try to live out this verse by complimenting my daughters each day and anyone who needs cheering up! Including me, by not putting down myself. I also thank God each day for His blessings. Merry Christmas All 🙂

  26. Mary Liz Kehoe December 19, 2014 at 6:45 pm #

    My life centers around my home as my business is here. As a woman I tend to continue with the traditional role as a woman, ironing my husband’s shirts, cooking for him, etc. We hem our days in with prayer and devotion together. I have my own personal Bible Study and Prayers as well as many scripture pictures that grace my walls. My clients have walls that will speak to them. My wonderful rending of Jesus in my waiting room draws people to him. Jesus has blessed me in my every walk of life raising three kids to forty something while assisting others in the field of education. Next year I will continue to engage in my work with dyslexic individuals @ the tender age of 74….retirement is not in my vocabulary…a friend tells me her husband will need to go by the office on the way to the grave…my office is here at home…

  27. Lori Goforth December 19, 2014 at 7:17 pm #

    What a great reminder to read as I came home from the “rat race” of work ready to enjoy my weekend. My thoughts have been filled with feeling fat and trying to find clothes to hide all the excess. I am 55 years old and still find myself looking to the external far too much. I say I am looking to the Lord as my first priority but I know that is not true much of the time. Thanks for the word Liz.

  28. Nancy Rae December 19, 2014 at 7:32 pm #

    I so appreciate reading this tonight. Reading the Word and others’ meditations on it always reminds me of my goal to please Him, and also that I still have a long ways to go. I want to just ‘be there’, conquered it and remain living there all the time. Alas.

  29. Cheri December 19, 2014 at 7:35 pm #

    I have always loved this Psalm, but never thought it would be attainable for me. I know now that loving and knowing the Lord is the answer!!! Thank you, Lizz!

  30. Ann Blomgren December 19, 2014 at 7:36 pm #

    The older I become, the more the truth of this is made real to me. I pray my children and grandchildren will be encouraged by learning that Jesus is the one we seek to please, and His approval is all we need or want.

  31. Cynthia December 19, 2014 at 7:44 pm #

    Our bodies will certainly change as the years go by. . .but, one thing never changes~~the love God has for us. Our true beauty is on the inside.

  32. Heather December 19, 2014 at 8:16 pm #

    Thank you for another thought provoking read!

  33. Joanna December 19, 2014 at 8:57 pm #

    I pray others will see Jesus Christ in me. His beauty & love will be what they see – not fake charm & phoney “paint on the barn.” ;D

  34. Brandi Luiz December 19, 2014 at 9:29 pm #

    I think realizing that God shining His light through my actions is a much greater honor than the applause of people.

  35. Elaine December 19, 2014 at 9:36 pm #

    Wow, this was wonderful. Just had a talk with my grand daughter about the importance of liking the way she looks and not buy into Hollywood or Disney. Reminded her that God designed her just the way she is and she is beautiful in His eyes as well as mine.

  36. becki December 19, 2014 at 10:08 pm #

    2014’s weekly Proverbs have blessed abundantly, this week’s no less. I desire to set aside people-pleasing charms in the interest of pleasing the LORD. Easy say, difficult do, and I thank you for this hard challenge.

  37. Eve Maguire December 19, 2014 at 10:48 pm #

    I thank God for you and your teachings . Studing the word is such a blessing. I am thankful I’ve have had privilege of growing and learning. May God bless you and your family

  38. Susan Gruener December 19, 2014 at 11:46 pm #

    We can seek Him daily…Worship Him…Read the Word…Memorize it…Listen to His voice…Be obedient…and Pray. And that’s just our part… 🙂
    I can’t believe we have spent almost a whole year on Proverbs! It’s gone way too fast! Can we do two years Liz? 😉
    Have a blessed Christmas!

  39. Amy December 20, 2014 at 12:14 am #

    Wonderful article. We get so wrapped up in meaningless stuff and we don’t worry about what is important enough.

  40. Julie Sunne December 20, 2014 at 1:16 am #

    We live in a culture steeped in the importance of image. And many of us buy it, hook, line, and sinker. But for anything praiseworthy to be found in us, it must come from Jesus, not the cosmetic line. Time to reset our minds on Christ. Another good one, Liz. Thanks!

  41. Janet Dawkins December 20, 2014 at 5:43 am #

    I love this simple concept. Really, being true to yourself means being true to Him!

  42. sue hibbs December 20, 2014 at 6:36 am #

    When I first started to read, I thought, this is perfect for…I should send this to…oh she really needs to hear this…then I realized – it was meant for ME! Ta Daa!

  43. shanyn December 20, 2014 at 6:44 am #

    Thank you for these words of encouragement. It’s so easy to get caught up in a world view of beauty and self worth. Reminders of God’s heart for us ladies is a welcome in my life that i appreciate so much.

  44. Georgia December 20, 2014 at 9:55 am #

    Such a good reminder of growing old gracefully and not trying to look years younger! I have just joined the study and look forward to the coming year

  45. Janice Reist December 20, 2014 at 12:30 pm #

    I always look forward to your emails, Liz. Your words are so encouraging! You have reminded us today that outward beauty is fleeting but the inward beauty that God desires last forever.

  46. Laura December 20, 2014 at 12:32 pm #

    It was always my aspiration to be this Proverbs 31 woman….. Its much harder than it sounds. But the truth I am finding now is that people are naturally attracted to the Jesus in you. My favorite compliments are when someone says that they can see Jesus in my eyes. The more time I spend getting to know the Father, the more complete I am, and that is beautiful!

  47. Liz December 20, 2014 at 1:13 pm #

    Smile and really mean it, have it in my eyes as well as on my lips; try to keep a pleasant countenance for those in front of it :); curb my too-quick, too-tart tongue and give a gentle answer where possible.

    • Linda December 20, 2014 at 1:27 pm #

      I just joined your site this past week, I am looking forward to sharing and studying with you and others in the coming year. Today’s message from you is such a blessing from God. It is exactly what I have been praying about. Thank you Liz for letting God work through you.

  48. Heather December 20, 2014 at 2:53 pm #

    I have been following your blog since we moved this past June. I have been inspired and challenged by your words of wisdom that come from the Lord. May He continue to use you Liz to bring glory to Him. Merry Christmas.

  49. Summer December 20, 2014 at 2:58 pm #

    Thank you for this godly reminder. At any age, we can seek after the Lord…and He will make us beautiful!

  50. Ginny Campbell December 20, 2014 at 5:13 pm #

    Still enjoying life at age 80, long since learned about deceptiveness. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, they say, so I am glad that the Lord is my beholder and he sees me as beautiful. That is not always what I see in the mirror. Some days it is just hard to be content in one’s own skin!! Still learning to justly fear the Lord, our Maker. Liz,
    you seem so real, even though I know you only from your writings and pictures. Thanks for allowing us to “see” you and be challenged by your insights. BTW – both my husband and I went with you to Scotland through your book. Loved it!

  51. Kim Imsande December 20, 2014 at 5:43 pm #

    I pray that others will see Jesus Christ in me by my loving, serving, honoring, and worshiping the One who is worthy of my praise!

  52. Jean December 20, 2014 at 6:07 pm #

    Listen and Obey. I struggle with this. A woman who fears the Lord, is ready and waiting. 2015 might be my year to start fresh.

  53. M. C. Myers December 20, 2014 at 7:12 pm #

    I am using the problems that come my way as teachable moments, grateful for the problem so that it does not drag me down because in gratitude the problem has lost its power.

  54. Adrienne December 20, 2014 at 7:55 pm #

    Thank you so much, Liz 🙂 This was a blessing. I’m looking forward to reading more from you in 2015!

  55. Angela O'Connor December 20, 2014 at 9:10 pm #

    I really love you Liz Curtis Higgs! I know coming across this and your e-mails was no mistake. God needed me to have you in my life right now!

  56. Kathy December 20, 2014 at 9:52 pm #

    Living out this verse is an everyday challenge. Seeking God first and keeping your eyes on Him is the key. Just having major surgery, I’m not feeling very pretty these last few weeks, BUT my lovely husband reminds me everyday how proud he is of me and his encouragement keeps me pointed in the right direction-with my eyes on Jesus. It’s inevitable , we will all age, but if we fear The Lord -He will keep us under His wing.

  57. LouAnn December 20, 2014 at 11:50 pm #

    I want to be this woman and so thankful that God is working in me, through me and changing me. I am thankful that He has never given up on me. Someday I will see me with His eyes. Closer than I was .. still not there just yet. Love these messages. Looking forward to 2015 with you Liz. <3

  58. HelenC December 20, 2014 at 11:57 pm #

    This was such an amazing post! Thank you Liz for the words you share on your blog, for making scripture so relatable. I wrote some of this post in my journal so I can continue to refer back to it. Growing up I strove to do things well and even at 29 I catch myself worrying about others’ approval at times or if I’ve done or said the right thing. God alone is who I should fear and look to for guidance and approval. Thanks for the reminder that it’s not about trying harder or doing more – I just need to continually put God in his rightful place in my heart and life. Remembering that it’s not about me and my efforts makes me breathe a sigh of relief!

  59. Paula December 21, 2014 at 12:01 am #

    Oh how I needed this! I want to see me through His eyes, not the world’s. I’m His work in progress.

  60. Angie December 21, 2014 at 12:23 am #

    Been looking at my gray hair instead of keeping my eyes fixed on Him. The one who knows everyone of them and how many there are! So I colored em real good with that old box of color, and am going to put that vanity on the shelf again. What you’ve shared here is be strived for and attained with His grace! Amen.

  61. Amoreena Cortes December 21, 2014 at 12:26 am #

    As a woman who is guilty of people pleasing myself right into frustration, anxiety, and exhaustion this was a lovely reminder of the real perspective I should have. Not to mention the countless pressures of improving our physical appearance! Blessed to have a family and most importantly a Heavenly Father that loves me the way I am.

    Thanks for a lovely encouragement!

  62. Mary December 21, 2014 at 1:40 am #

    Thank you for sharing this. I found it very encouraging.

  63. Dena West December 21, 2014 at 4:39 am #

    God’s timing is perfect as this word was exactly what I needed right now. Thank you, Liz, for your obedience and inspiration to many.

  64. Deanna December 21, 2014 at 5:16 am #

    Thank you so much for breaking down this verse.
    Charm is deceptive and how easily we can be sucked into something by someone’s charm. How easily it is for me to think that I do not use charm but soaking in the words of this post has caused me to pause and be honest with myself….I do use charm, and I need to mindful that I do, at times. I crave to be the woman who fears the Lord….who keeps Him in focus always. My goal in life is to please God and not myself. I have just recently have been able to put that goal into words. It’s a difficult goal and I fail at it but I will continue to see that goal.

  65. Wendy Garner December 21, 2014 at 6:37 am #

    Thank you, Liz! I want to be beautiful like Jesus.

  66. Michelle December 21, 2014 at 6:44 am #

    Comparison and people pleasing – something I struggle with. It is difficult to remember that I only need to please an audience of One…but oh how I want that. Thank you for breaking this down, Liz. I love your blog and your encouragement. Leaning into Him and keeping my eyes on Jesus is my daily goal. Merry Christmas!!

  67. Jennifer Mobley December 21, 2014 at 6:50 am #

    Oh Liz! Thank you for these words. At 43, I find myself struggling with being too old to be young and too young to be old. Thank you for reminding me that my beauty comes from within and the only applause that I ever need is from God. Eyes focused on HE who is worthy!!!

  68. Tammy December 21, 2014 at 7:12 am #

    Beautiful, timely words of wisdom that were much needed this morning

  69. Joy December 21, 2014 at 8:03 am #

    I am so glad that God’s opinion is much more important than people’s! I want to please my Savior who has done so much for me!

  70. Morgan December 21, 2014 at 8:06 am #

    This reminded me that instead of spending 45 minutes getting ready in the morning, my priority time should be drenched in God’s word.

  71. Elaine Potts December 21, 2014 at 8:07 am #

    I love this blog post. Now I understand why I am conflicted by people who work so hard to say sweet, charming statements that to me seem shallow and insincere. It’s because they mask the real! Here I thought I should hide the real and be like them–perfect! (Which is never going to happen.) This explanation presented should liberate from the bondage of pleasing and perfection. Let our sweetness be from the Spirit of the living God and flow through our brokenness as healing for the brokenness of all. I loved this! Thank you.

  72. Martha Parrish December 21, 2014 at 8:14 am #

    This is a wonderful reminder. I feel like I haven’t aged well when I am often around others. I need to be reminded that my beauty is from The Lord and will shine because of Him. Wonderfully written as always. Merry Christmas Liz!

  73. Starla England December 21, 2014 at 8:48 am #

    I would like to think myself a woman of Faith…now I am not saying that I have had any life rendering events in quite awhile in my life, but I know that when I was amongst nothing but fire after fire for over four years from death to a loved one, my broken marriages, yes, marriages and health issues myself…it was Jesus who brought me through the fires…I see many who suffer from Neurological problems in their early to late times in their lives and it is a constant reminder of Jesus walking with me through those fires and it humbles me to know that He is with these women AND men through theirs and it makes each and everyone of them BEAUTIFUL in a way that ONLY GOD can make them and myself. It warms my heart to know that His love is so intense that it covers us all like a blanket and being touched by that love, I am beautiful as He wants me to be….and this I know I am a woman who fears my LORD and Savior. You are so real and honest with that special love He has provided us….Merry Christmas!

  74. Janet Fleming December 21, 2014 at 9:16 am #

    I only just now, today, at the end of the year, am joining you. I so wish I had gone through the weeks. After only reading the introduction, I would like to share a proverb that has meaning – even at this late date.

    Proverbs 31:25 – She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.

    After a shocking discovery of my husband’s actions – not just illegal but morally reprehensible – I got divorced. A second time. I frankly felt like a battered, tattered piece of luggage that no one would or should want. I still had my faith, yes, but it is quite frankly difficult to feel God’s grace at times, no matter how hard you look. I grew in faith, but that tattered view of self remained. In my reading a book, this verse was discussed and a light bulb went off. I was not responsible for my former spouse’s actions. God – and God alone – gave me the strength I needed to move my family to another state to get away from this man who had caused such harm to my family. But, going to church was so difficult. Instead of a place of sanctuary, I felt it a place of condemnation. I felt no dignity, much less could I laugh at the future. No retirement at the age of 50, no major assets, very little savings. I knew God would get me through, I trusted him completely. But it has taken 4 long years to recognize that not only did God see me as beautiful, but he infused me with strength AND dignity so I could laugh at the future, whatever it holds. What an amazing and wonderful place to be, as a daughter of the King. I pray this for all these sisters in Christ, no matter if they suggested a proverb or are struggling to get out of bed every morning due to a crisis – whether it be divorce, loss of job, loss of major friendships, death of a spouse or child – whatever your circumstance.

  75. Brenda December 21, 2014 at 9:24 am #

    Good word! Thank you!

  76. Michelle December 21, 2014 at 9:54 am #

    Her strategy for living is to be simply, purely, passionately devoted to the Lord.” LOVE this advise!!! Passionately on love with The Lord!!!!

  77. Patricia December 21, 2014 at 10:04 am #

    Thank you for your encouraging words with scriptures, Liz.

  78. Karen Johns December 21, 2014 at 10:24 am #

    Be in His Word regularly. If I don’t know Him well, how can I live a life that pleases Him?

  79. Lisa December 21, 2014 at 10:30 am #

    Reading this, I realize just how much of a “work in progress” I really am. I realize I am almost 60 and still trying to please everyone around me, when I should be trying to please God. How do you make that transition when this is what you have done your whole life?

  80. Faylin Myhre December 21, 2014 at 10:53 am #

    Thanks for the reminder that we live for an audience of one. As a child Colossians 3:23 & 24 found its way deep in my heart. I fail often but seeing each task (yes laundry, cleaning, eating well, exercise too! )as service to Jesus is how I live these verses out. It keeps my perpective then for this proverb. I want to be a woman who fears the Lord above all knowing that if I point to Jesus in all I do, He has blessings untold for me, both here in this life and waiting for me when He calls me home!

  81. Bonnie Root December 21, 2014 at 11:23 am #

    As always God has allowed life lessons to hit me where I live and you, Dear Liz, to bring the message home. How blessed we are that we live in a age where we can learn and share in a meaningful way even though miles apart and know that he loves us no matter where we are in our walk. I have struggled with being a people pleaser/working overtime /hiding pounds and grey all my life since the first time someone I loved called me Chubby Jo and the nickname stuck at age 6. I am defined by my weight, hair color, age and wrinkles not by God but by me….does it hurt when others are not bowled over by my “over achieving” Martha ways…..Yes, but thanks to God’s love, grace and mercy this too will pass and I can turn from people pleasing to God pleasing and shine the light in a way that my five little grandbabies don’t learn this mistake from me. God bless you Liz!

  82. Leslie December 21, 2014 at 11:56 am #

    What a beautiful verse. I am reminded that speaking the truth is so important. To speak the truth I need to be thinking on the truth and to be trusting God in all things. The enemy is the great deceiver, so I need to hide God’s word in my heart.

  83. Mya December 21, 2014 at 11:57 am #

    Simply, & perfectly said. I needed to hear, thankyou!

  84. Heidi December 21, 2014 at 2:35 pm #

    I just need to be myself… No false impressions or big “to-dos” necessary. People will like me for who I am with Jesus in my heart and His love flowing through me too and for others. Such timely words for me this day!

  85. Melissa December 21, 2014 at 10:10 pm #

    I wish I had something prolific and profound to say, as so many women have done already! All I can say is ouch! The words hit home and are a just reminder that my service is to Him and not to man. This is one that I will post on my mirror and in my planner to remind me that beauty comes from serving our Lord.

  86. Heather McKnight December 21, 2014 at 11:24 pm #

    this verse is hard for me. I have never felt pretty an tryed many ways to have people like me but all things fail. I have been struggling to get that deep relationship back with God but I am not doing well . Thank you for work and love for us women . Thank you for helping me start my journey again

  87. Robin December 22, 2014 at 8:33 am #

    Thank you Liz. Merry Christmas.

  88. Tabitha December 22, 2014 at 11:37 am #

    What a wonderful reminder. Especially at this time of year when we focus on decorations and wrapping and lights, trying to make everything look beautiful, it’s refreshing to be reminded that we are beautiful and pleasing to God. Thank you for serving Him faithfully. You are encouraging to us all.

  89. Tammi December 22, 2014 at 1:13 pm #

    I started greying at 25 and am quite silvery now. Developed fibromyalgia at 30 and unable to run any more. Energy levels are low so body has rounded. Was ok until I saw a posting of a video that I was on – and my self-worth plummeted. Then I read this Blog – and it’s just what I needed to hear today. Thank you! Ta! Da!

  90. Genie Cowden December 22, 2014 at 4:45 pm #

    Beautiful words – still and always alive and active and accurate! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  91. Carol December 22, 2014 at 6:40 pm #

    I have so enjoyed this countdown. I look forward to each week’s devotion. I wonder what it will be for 2015?

  92. Linda Cox December 22, 2014 at 11:38 pm #

    Thank you LIz for using the gift that the Lord has blessed you with. When I read your blogs God speaks to my heart just as he did tonight. I am so thankful that God loves us even when we were still living in our sin. I thank God for his wonderful gift of Grace that he poured out on all who would receive the precious gift of His Son Jesus Christ. God has been working in my life now for many years. He is changing me and filling me more each day with His love and compassion. I know that the more I serve Him and share His love with others it causes me to grow closer to Jesus. I just pray that when I speak about the Lord that people will see His glory in my life. Have a blessed Christmas Liz and God bless you for the beautiful lady that you are in Christ Jesus.

  93. Susan December 23, 2014 at 9:12 am #

    Today is my birthday – a time to reflect on 56 years. I always admire those women who have the love of Jesus all over them and want to be like them. I realize that the more time that I am spending in God’s word and doing what God asks of me, the more I am becoming one of those women. I will continue to remember this verse.
    Thanks, Liz, and Merry Christmas!

  94. Pam December 23, 2014 at 1:18 pm #

    I have struggled with self-esteem issues for over 40 years – always comparing myself to others, always trying to lose weight, always trying to be more attractive. I have quoted this verse to myself many times, praying I could change my focus from myself to my Lord but the desires of my heart were still on outward appearances. I think the prayer at the end of the devotional will be a great help. With age comes wisdom and I wish I had used the time spent on outward appearances as time spent with God.

    • Jennifer December 27, 2014 at 7:05 am #

      I so agree, Pam! Your last sentence sums up what I have been feeling but couldn’t truly put a name to… spending the time on what is truly important… I will pray for you… Please pray for me to do the same! I am tired of comparing and feeling inadequate….. Thanks for sharing!

  95. Donna December 23, 2014 at 1:21 pm #

    I have always been somewhat conscious of my looks, but this year I have had to deal with cancer and while it hasn’t changed my appearence, it has changed my abilitiy to speak confidently. It has also made me realize that looks and abilities are not what God is seeking in me – it is a clean heart and a willingness to share His love to others. I have been able to share what God had done in my life through this experience that no amount of ‘looks’ could have allowed me to do.

  96. Carrie December 23, 2014 at 4:28 pm #

    I’ve so enjoyed all of your messages this year, Liz. This one hit home hard. I feel like one of my biggest struggles as a Christian is comparing myself (whether it’s looks, parenting, money… I could go on!) to other women. This was a good reminder for me to put my focus on my Savior, and all the other comparisons will fade away. Thank you!

  97. Melanie December 24, 2014 at 4:39 pm #

    Merry Christmas! Thank you for your faithfulness in sharing these wonderful proverbs with us. Happy Birthday Jesus!

  98. Jennifer December 27, 2014 at 7:01 am #

    As I read through this… just sliding through because “I have read it all before”…. it hit me… all of the things that have kept me awake this morning.. much too early… could be solved by remembering from whom the PRAISE comes and to WHOM it should go. I have been struggling with feeling unappreciated, devalued… in my church work of all things. I know deep in my heart that the devil has been trying to use this to separate me … not just from my church (I am still struggling with wanting to leave…) but from God my Savior himself. I have felt such great guilt at not “doing” enough, praying enough, being ENOUGH… but that’s just it… It’s not about me at all. It’s about realizing that God made me for a purpose… to love HIM and commit all I do unto HIM… My goodness… I have loved Jesus my whole life and yet… I still fall back into this trap. It will happen again, but for now.. I KNOW from whom I receive all blessings .. I can STAND ON THE ROCK of Jesus… and trust him to know my heart… to allow me the freedom to be me.. as he created me… Praise Jesus for his promises … pleasing HIM is my goal… that truly puts everything else into perspective… Amen!

  99. Rachele December 27, 2014 at 4:13 pm #

    I like so many women struggle with the desire to look good and the desire to be who I am. I want to be the real me for my kids, so they see that their mom isn’t trying to be as the world says I should be.

  100. Jannie Ensing December 29, 2014 at 9:10 am #

    What an amazing truth this is if we could only see it clear, we do, but than forget.
    My desire is to grow old with His grace (I am almost 80) let His beauty shine thru me and fear Him with all that is in me.
    Make every moment count as I give myself to Jesus, aches and pains and all.
    He is my all.

  101. Linda December 29, 2014 at 9:28 am #

    I love the reminder of Who my audience really is!

  102. Joanne December 29, 2014 at 3:00 pm #

    This is one verse I need to ponder and memorize and write on my heart. I’ve for far too long been overly concerned with my appearance and this reminds me that I only need to be concerned with my inner beauty. God looks at me from the inside out and He is really the only one I need to please.

  103. Barb Knapp January 8, 2015 at 8:40 am #

    I should have written before now, but I wanted to tell you, we studied “Bad Girls of the Bible” in Sunday School over the summer. It was really fun! You’re great. I love that you write with humor!


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